Faye's Feelings Carrd
feelings: this carrd goes over my feelings for other people in my life. Not in detail of every person, just a few, but that may be something I do in the future! Who knows!
Neph's feelings<3
Vida♡ : Vida is my queer platonic partner (off and on) of about a year to two, and close friend of 5-6 years total. I share reciprocated romantic feelings with them and value them so deeply. Vida always knows what to do whenever something happens, it feels like. They are kind and generous, and caring to those they know deeply. I love the fact that they can not only ramble with me for hours, but listen just as well as they talk. Sometimes we have our moments, and I get scared, but they always have my back. I feel like if I do decide to ever enter a romantic traditional relationship with them, I would need coaxing because I love the bond and values we have together now and the deep commitment to each other, while not practicing traditional gestures. I feel like without Vida, I wouldn't have gotten this far in my life, where I am actively seeking out peace and stability. I sometimes run and rush to assume I am unimportant to Vida. As I do, everyone else as well. But Vida pulls me back, sits me down, and talks to me repeatedly, reassuring me. Sometimes I require more reassurance than others, and I need it done repeatedly due to my mental state, but Vida does their absolute best to meet me where I am.
Malice♡ : Malice is my queer platonic partner (off and on) of 8 years, nearing 9. While we share reciprocated romantic feelings, we kiss each other over the phone, say I love you, and interact romantically, sometimes we have decided we cannot ever agree to enter a relationship whatsoever. Malice is one of my people and will always be one of my people. Malice provides insight based on other cultures and ideas. He always shocks me, and he seems to question everything. He carefully explains what can be done and how things can be handled in times of my distress. He's loving and understanding. And he has always been watching over me. Even if he doesn't speak to me as much as he used to. We are always intertwined.
Kilo♡ : Kilo is my ex-boyfriend and my close friend of a few months now. I met him around the same time I met Decay. I feel like time kinda stops when I talk to Kilo, he has always been very stable and reassuring. Sometimes I think I am in love with him. And I do believe I love him quite a bit. But jumping to being in love may have been silly of me. Though no one can make me stop loving people, no, they just simply can't. I wish I will be able to know him deeply and rekindle whatever is here. But even if I fail, I'll be damned if I let this breakup get in the middle of me convincing him to love himself and think highly of himself. He is stunning, and he doesn't even know that. He's very calming and secure. Anyone can tell he is caring at his core.
Decay♡ : Decay is my friend that I've had for a few months now. I have a love for him, I feel deeply for him. I like him, I want to know him. I want to be around him. I think my feelings are a burden, but he always reassures me not to be afraid and that if something crosses his boundaries, he will speak up on the matter. Decay is assertive, caring, patient, and offers advice and guidance. He supports people through difficult situations and challenges the way they think. I can't wait to know him further, I can't wait to be closer to him. Even if he and Kilo want to keep me at a distance, I want to do my best to cross that bridge and reach them. They matter to me.
Chris♡ : Chris is my close friend, I've known him for 5 to 6 years. I met him at the same time I met Vida. I have unrequited romantic feelings for him. It has been a struggle sometimes to navigate. Chris is always persisting through whatever he faces and does so much for others that sometimes I don't see until after the ordeal happens. He always tries to mend things that have been broken in his relationships and never gives up on the things he feels are right. Even though we disagree on a lot of things, I know he would ultimately be there for me even if he were to be mad at me.
| my friends |
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| I consider my people to be my friends and to have my back when I need them the most. Sometimes I forget that I have people who love and care for me. And I'm trying to continually remind myself of them whenever possible. I want them to grow as people and explore themselves. With every day I am more prouder than them than the last. They never cease to amaze me and make me think the impossible must be possible. I truly hope these people are here to stay in my life for the long run. |
| ✘ absolute nots ✘ |
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| putting down my friends or my beloved in any shape or form. If I'm venting about someone or talk to someone again and re-invite them into my life, I expect nothing but a willingness to trust in my judgement and that the people I surround myself with have my best interest in mind. do not attempt to down play my friends feelings, thoughts, or actions, every feeling and thought is valid, but actions are not always so. I want my friends to be able to breathe and also take accountability. If you downplay what they experience I'll honestly just end up ghosting or blocking you. Also do not ask invasive questions! Thanks! |
Neph's Queer Platonic FAQ
qpp♡ : "queerplatonic relationship, also called a quasiplatonic relationship, (abbreviated QPR in both cases), is a term for a relationship that bends the rules for telling apart romantic relationships from non-romantic relationships. It typically goes beyond what is considered normal or socially acceptable for a platonic relationship but is not romantic in nature or does not fit the traditional idea of a romantic relationship."
| ✔ gestures ✔ |
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| holding, cooking, kisses on cheek, compliments, intimate conversations, emotionally present conversations, hand holding, playing with hair, "love" letters, dancing, "dates", cuddling, priority, and loyalty. |
| ✘ absolute nots ✘ |
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| do not overwhelm or treat the relationship just like a romantic one, but also do not treat it as just a friendship for it is neither or both of those things, making it entirely different from that. |
| notes |
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| all queer platonic relationships are different and require a different level of care or intimacy, and attention. most do not need sexual intimacy, there are cases where qp relationships do partake in that though. |
my queerplatonic partners!
Are important to me.
Are very much significant others to me and are very much the same akin to a regular relationship with me.
importance of honesty!
There is an ethical obligation to talk about all details of this thoroughly.
Justim♡ : Justim is my ex-boyfriend. I dated him for about four months before we were caught in such a complicated situation where we didn't know how to navigate it. We had been friends for around two months prior, in my opinion, since I consider my mutuals friends my friends. I am in love with him even though I may not know him as deeply as I'd like. I try to notice the things I know about him, but I have such a terrible memory. For a while after we broke up, I genuinely thought he was abusive and maliciously intended; Come the end of May, I believe it will have been the time that Justim followed me initially and come June will be when we became friends and will have been friends off and on for about a year then. Justim, while he didn't believe me at first regarding some things that happened, is patient and kind. He knows his faults and takes responsibility for what happens. He is always trying to work through things in times of fear and uncertainty. Even if he needs to pull back and reflect often. I realize that that is a caring gesture made to protect those around him, just as much as himself. As I told Kilo some of this, Justim is an amazing person who is constantly working on himself. I know so